I've look at these photos and remember when, when my son was born. Oh how precious to hold a newly born soul. The pleasures of watching that soul grow into it's own person is amazing.
But what do you do when you start seeing the first sigh of the wrong decisions, the wrong thoughts, and taking the wrong paths. All the love that you have for your child make you wreck your brain and mental ability to try to steer him/or her back on the right path before it is too late.
Because all of the traumatic issues and all of the struggles that we have endured as parents, we are able to come up with all types of creative ways to teach and redirect our children. But what do you do when your child just continue to disobey the teachings and the positive direction that you as a parent is trying to pass over to insure that their walk through life wont be so full of darkness and deceit.
My sons are very handsome, intelligent, creative, young men, but all of the qualities that they have are being used in the wrong format. They are lying, and being very sneaky. For Example one has been getting in trouble at school for the same thing over and over again (talking and not having enough time to do his work or anything else but conversation and amusement). Now he is on punishment. So as parents we think that this will at some point sink in his head to use this time to think about what was done, and ways to improve himself, right, Not, still using his creative ability to create more trauma for himself. He has been sneaking on the phone and talking to friends late at night, mind you we have already took the phone and the phone cord out of his room previously, so that means that he had to sneak the phone back into his room. Thats not what troubles me , what it is, is that after he gets in trouble for it ( talks, spankings, taking things he likes away, time out, and all of that) he turns around and do it again right after he gets in trouble, the next day.
This is a constant thing that is going on in my life with this 11 year old young man of mines.
what should i do and how long and what more do we have to go through as parents for things to get better.
I really love and care for my sons but i am at wits in with this.
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Aww, I'm sorry to hear that you've reached that "i'ma do what I wanna do stage". I might be jumping the gun here, but if he seems to not really be listening to you and your wife, perhaps there is something deep going on with him, besides those pre-teen years, that is making him act out. Maybe you guys can consider bringing in a 3rd party, like a councelor.
Sometimes kids will talk to someone else about their "problems" before they will really sit down with you and fill you in.
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