THESE TEEN AGE KIDS

Well to continue this story about my son, he went a couple of days befor he even paid attention to that he needed to fix the relationship between him and I. I am trying to teach him to not just let the problem at hand sit to long befor he begins to correct it and find a solution. This time i just sat and watched how long it was going to take him to say that he was sorry about what happened, since I have always told him that, that was all he needed to say to me and that it meant the world to me when he does.

This issue that I had spoken about in the last posting, really bothered me this time. He is getting to old now do still be making the same wrong move over and over again. I had to prompt him to say that he was sorry to his mother, and he did it, but it did go through his mind that maybe i needed to hear it also. Well after 2 days he finally came into my room after i got home from work that night. He said, in a low voice, " Can i talk to you". I replied with,"yeah, i will be in your room in a minute", he walked away.

Now you know what is going through my mind, his mother must have spoken to him and told him that i needed to hear a apology. I walked into his room and sat on the edge of the bed and listened to what he had to say.

He was nervous and stumbled all around the the topic, but did hear him say that he was sorry, i told him that i except it and told him thank you.

that made the whole issue better and i let him know that. but will he ever be able to do it on his own with out being prompt. I know that the teenagers today is loosing sight of responsibility and the true meaning of words. But I am going to continue to teach and guide until i can not do it anymore. I love my son so.

A FATHERS LOVE

I've look at these photos and remember when, when my son was born. Oh how precious to hold a newly born soul. The pleasures of watching that soul grow into it's own person is amazing.

But what do you do when you start seeing the first sigh of the wrong decisions, the wrong thoughts, and taking the wrong paths. All the love that you have for your child make you wreck your brain and mental ability to try to steer him/or her back on the right path before it is too late.

Because all of the traumatic issues and all of the struggles that we have endured as parents, we are able to come up with all types of creative ways to teach and redirect our children. But what do you do when your child just continue to disobey the teachings and the positive direction that you as a parent is trying to pass over to insure that their walk through life wont be so full of darkness and deceit.

My sons are very handsome, intelligent, creative, young men, but all of the qualities that they have are  being used in the wrong format. They are lying, and being very sneaky. For Example one has been getting in trouble at school for the same thing over and over again (talking and not having enough time to do his work or anything else but conversation and amusement). Now he is on punishment. So as parents we think that this will at some point sink in his head to use this time to think about what was done, and ways to improve himself, right, Not, still using his creative ability to create more trauma for himself. He has been sneaking on the phone and talking to friends late at night, mind you we have already took the phone and the phone cord out of his room previously, so that means that he had to sneak the phone back into his room. Thats not what troubles me , what it is, is that after he gets in trouble for it ( talks, spankings, taking things he likes away, time out, and all of that) he turns around and do it again right after he gets in trouble, the next day.

This is a constant thing that is going on in my life with this 11 year old young man of mines.
what should i do and how long and what more do we have to go through as parents for things to get better.

I really love and care for my sons but i am at wits in with this.

First, I want to thank God for the miracle of my life. He has been with me all my life, and the only way I could have done this is with His love for me, and His help. I trust Him, I love Him, and I owe it all to Him.

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